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Date: 14/10/2001
Title: Moods spread the way you want!

"Moods Speak". Ever wonder what this whole concept of moods is? Let me give you a more precise definition. It is the state of mind at a particular time. Our state of mind is a by-product of many factors which are internal and external. Our personality, age and nature are the internal factors shaping our moods. The external forces are the type of environment we are in, the type of people that influence us, the state of situation we are facing and the type of phase we go through in life. You might notice some of us have a very stable behavior most of the times while others have a dynamic flow of emotions.

There are people who allow people or situations to affect their mood. Today you might greet someone with a chirpy outlook and the next day the same person would be welcomed with your mysterious and grumpy attitude. I don't know why but we humans let anything and anyone affect our moods. Our species gets influenced so easily. For some people it's easy to have a stable mind frame no matter what the situation. These people may change their track for a while but always return to their typical selves. If they have a cheerful attitude, they remain so always. Notice people around you and you will find that some of them are always smiling, some are always cracking jokes, some always have a 'never say die' attitude and some are always so cool. There will be others who start crackling with a change of scenery. They go through rapid change of emotions and depict an indefinite persona to people. These are people who are unpredictable, fragile and difficult to handle.

In spite of the differences the moods don't come in the way of relationships, friendships or kinship. Not all people are same and therefore this difference affects our moral fiber. Moods are very contagious. Agreed that there are people with stable moods but notice the difference each type have on you. If you are moody, you don't realize that you are spreading your mood in the form of a disease. A gloomy or a grumpy mind can transmit the reactions to many minds. This effect depends on the influence you can have. We are a social circle. One smile can be easily transmitted to thousand faces. Similarly a frown can make more than thousand faces ugly. You might have had a day when you would have felt like a boiled egg and a simple exchange of words with a stranger or friend might have drastically changed the expression of your face. We don't realize that our smiles produce so many other smiley faces. It protects other people's smiles. It renews other people's moods and enriches the soul.

Moods are not a result of physical stress but in most cases mental. If you are able to control your mind frame and strong enough not to be affected by anything then you are a person with never ending sunshine which is inside your heart. Remember mood is just a state of mind. It is under your control and you can spread it around the way you want!

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Date: 31/08/2001
Title: Conversationalists uncovered-up close and personal!

We seem to converse with a lot of people around us. No two people are alike and each personality has its unique image and interactive skills. Take time to think of different personalities you have interacted over the years and summarize them in a few words.

I was just wondering as the different types there exist and I came up with my own classification. Find out where you stand. As per my observations, these were my discoveries-

(a) Yapper: This is the person who keeps talking without a full stop. Their sentences are very long. There is no limit to their sentences. You have to actually butt in to end their sentence. They drag the topics of conversation. While talking with them all you are doing is saying "Yes", "No" and just nodding and smiling. They are not good listeners at all. Talking with them is like listening to a radio show, only it's not easy to change the channels.

(b) The Spontaneous: This person doesn't have a very well defined style of conversation. But he/she is very spontaneous unlike others. They are quick at wit and know how to handle any situation at any time. This person doesn't need time to think or gauge on the right timings. He/she astonishes everyone and eases out through all conversations effortlessly and is not ruled by second thoughts and what he/she says actually hits the bulls eye. Ready to shoot!

(c) Marketer: He/she exists in many of us. This person believes in the three steps of marketing i.e. segmenting, targeting and positioning. He/she either modifies his style to adapt to the other person's style or positions himself/herself accordingly as to meet the target audience. He/she actually studies the person and never stops researching or analyzing. The person's communications skills are vast and is a major extrovert and knows how to fit into a conversation. He knows what to say and how to say after he's thoroughly scanned you.

(d) Beholder: This person has a very strong and continuous eye contact with the person he's in conversation. Most people do not hold eye contact more than a few seconds but the beholder is in contact with your eyes throughout the conversation. The eyes speak and the words continue the interplay. You are left on your feet and under the mesmerizing power of the beholder. Don't misinterpret the beholder and do not get turned off by the eye contact. Their eyes display their confidence and intensity.

(e) Chocolate: This person is too sweet. The words delivered are extremely sugar coated. They are so fond of using words like 'sweety' and 'dear' and they like to over sweeten the whole conversation to make an impression. The more you talk to them, the more easily you read through them. Too sweet ain't really too sweet!

(f) Actor: This person is not what he/she converses. He/she is totally fake. You think you know the real person but you still keep wondering as to what the person's real identity is. This person has different shades to show people and is different with everyone. No one can see the real face behind this actor. It is a very pretense personality.

(g) Serene: This person is among the quieter ones in the conversation. It is not very easy or interesting talking with them as you are doing most of the talking. They are very good listeners. They talk less but think a lot. They may take a little time to open up but once they do they can carry a conversation quite well.

(h) Chameleon: This is a very dangerous person to be in conversation with . You have to be ready for any sort of surprises. These kind of people are very moody. Their conversation reflects their mood. At times they are a pleasure and at times a annoyance. You have to first measure their temperature before releasing the words.

(i) Inquisitive: This person is very inquisitive and always probing in the conversations. He/she is always digging to discover more about the person. He/she is never satisfied with what is known and wants to know more and more. You have to be careful while talking with the inquisitive and be ready for inspection anytime. This person is bubbling with unending questions and yearning for answers. Such a person would make an excellent journalist, DJ or a host on television or even do wonders as an Human Resource manager.

(j) Professor: This person is a teacher in the conversation- beaming with philosophy and wants to be the jack of all trades and feel they always have something to be taught. You have to be ready for "thought of the day" or a new lesson to learn everyday.

(k) Clown: This person has an amazing sense of humour and is extremely witty. Their conversations always have a quick one-liner and they have this knack of putting a smile or a giggle on the other person's face. They are frivolous and carry light-hearted conversations. They love mixing humour smartly with their conversations. It is very easy and pleasing to be in conversation with them. They even hit on you with mockery or embarrass you. They are hardly serious and enjoy being the clown in the conversation. They love doing monkey business. Some people may not be able to take them positively but most of them enjoy their company.

(l) Half way rider: This person can start a conversation but is not capable of carrying it till the end. He/she can easily get bored or gets stuck in the middle. One needs to work harder when dealing with them.

(m) George : Then there is this George. How can you forget him? He's like the George Costanza of Seinfeld. He's not so sure about what to say when the time is there but after the conversation is over he would sit and analyze his errors and would think of what he could have said. He would place the same conversation again just to give a better reply but still be beaten! He never forgets a conversation. He can make you laugh or irritate you!

(n) Smart alec: This a person who tries to be the smartest of all. He/she is very evasive and always looking to mark their superiority in the conversation. They may try to make you feel nervous and make the atmosphere uncomfortable. You have to think many times before you place your conversation. It's not a pleasure conversing with them and after a while you just run out of words. They are very diplomatic and can make great politicians. They have this arrogant style in their personality. You might have to wonder where is this conversation leading and what are you doing talking with him/her?

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Date: 17/08/2001
Title: The difference differs...

Being different is both a boon and a limitation, depending from the angle you are viewing. Sometimes being different separates you from the rest in a way that can add the unique value to the attention and respect that you get. Being different means you are not just one of the stereotypes but a character with unique individuality. You feel, sense and react to things, people and places in a different way. Sometimes this very difference can separate you from the rest. This segregation actually steals the esteem that others could give you. Sometimes it affixes a image on you that you don't even represent. It makes you work that much harder to remove what's not supposed to be there in the first place. It puts pressure on your personality. This whole icon thrusted on you is like a unwanted guest that you cant wait to get rid of. Sometimes the eye that sees you, perceives you in a light that darkens your factual self. Sometimes just because you are perceived as different, you begin to fight against the perception and try hard to be just like others. But why is this so?

Why should you become a run of the mill character just to be a member of a group? Why should you try to please someone only to have a bonding that's not based on real values? We are all different but don't let the difference act against you. Being different doesn't mean you are the odd one out. You are what you are because of your difference. Agreed at times the difference mars certain relationships. But then it's up to you make the most of the difference. Don't let your difference act against you but act for you.

While interacting with many people we don't realize how many of us differ while some of us start differing from the word 'go'. You have to understand that what looks different is not always different. Sometimes what we know about a person is different from the actual self while sometimes what the person shows us differs from what the person wants to be with us. At a glance not everything seems alike. Then as time passes by similarities start revealing themselves. Sometimes within a group you realize that there lies difference between the members. But does that mean the group shall end? Nothing ends because it is different. We may debate on different issues with different perspectives but then we all have to respect each other for who we are. You may find two people who are so different yet they complement each other so well that their relationship is graced with undeniable success. It is said that opposites attract. If each one of us were alike with same expressions and the same personalities who would notice you or remember you?

We all have these different shades amongst each other. Certain shades connect with certain people and with those whom we can't, we meet them to a lesser extent. You are not going to lose out on anything due to this difference unless you let yourself to. A certain person may look at life in a certain manner while you have your own perspective to follow. No one has to be judged here. If you cannot walk that way then you can't. It's up to you how you project your difference and how you blend it with other 'different' souls.You don't have to change yourself but mold your difference in a way as to connect with others. If someone accepts you, they have to accept you for your difference.

This whole hubbub about being different is pointless. Even though we are different individuals, we are simply clinging on to the similar ends between each other.

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Date: 16/08/2001
Title: Dil Chahta hai...(the review)

Today was one of the best days for Indian cinema and the Indian audience. We all witnessed a revolution in Indian film making which brought to light the true picture of modern India. Who brought this revolution?-Farhan Akhtar, the son of notable writer and lyricist Javed Akhtar. He single-handedly wrote the story, screenplay, dialogues and directed the movie only to bring about a product that surpasses every expectation.

Dil Chahta Hai-the story of three friends and about their individual lives. Akash i.e. Aamir Khan who is smart,witty,confident,lively, mischievous and stylish. He is a non-believer of love. Sameer i.e. Saif Ali Khan who is in search of love, doesn't know what is love but he thinks he's fallen in love everytime he lays eye on a female. He is funny,naive, confused and extremely cute. Then there is Sidharth, lovingly known as Sid i.e. Akshay Khanna who is reserved, sensitive, warm, caring, an artist who loves painting and has strange tastes in life. These three friends so different yet share a great commonness that bonds them together.

It's about how Akash really falls in love and discovers the meaning of true love so very beautifully in the form of Shalini i.e. Preity Zinta. It's about how Sameer a boy who always thinks he is in love, actually falls in love without thinking ever again thanks to Pooja i.e. Sonali. It's about how Sidharth discovers his true love and loses it to death. It's about these three friends whose friendship stays with us forever, one that accompanies their souls. The movie is a sheer inspiration to life itself. Finally the international Indian has arrived on the screen. It's a movie about the youth, about the present generation. The movie is so young and vibrant. It's a refreshing experience all said and done. Each character in the movie is someone you can relate to. It's about real people. It's about the modern Indian that has a fresh outlook towards life.

Aamir once again delivers an amazingly superb performance. He is the life of the movie. Be it comedy, be it romance, be it emotions, be it anything he's just aced every department, leaving no room for error. He actually depicts, looks, emotes, and represents the role to perfection. When he says the dialogue- "It is difficult to improve perfection" aptly describes the talent of the actor. Saif Ali khan is so lovable in the role of Sameer. His timing when it comes to comedy is amazing. He is so natural and has elevated the character through his performance. Akshay too has managed to give his best in the role of Sid. His expressions, soft voice, the way he reacts and his emotive sensibility all add to the character. He truly deserves an applause for the effort that makes him stand out in the company of seasoned actors. Preity delivers the softness and warmth to her role well. She looks gorgeous.

Notable scenes-
*All the scenes involving the interaction between Akshay, Aamir and Saif. Their sense of humour and rapport is hilarious.

*The graduation scene where Aamir makes a fake proposal to Preity and gets hit by her fiance.

*The scene where Saif gets duped by Christine and also when he returns home after being robed.

*The scene where the three friends celebrate Dimple's birthday.

*The scenes between Saif, Sonali and her boyfriend! They were rib tickling.

*The scene where Aamir and Akshay break into a fight.

*The scene where Akshay consoles Deepa who has a crush on Aamir.

*The scene where Preity and Aamir meet on the airplane.

*The scene where Preity and Aamir are having lunch in Australia.

*The opera scene, where Aamir realizes he's in love with Preity and also the scene after that where Aamir answers Preity's question.

*The scene where Preity is left behind and the train's doors close and it takes off. Aamir is inside. The way they both stare at each other and the whole feel of the scene is so great. Also after that when Aamir returns back, the way he handles the tense atmosphere where Preity is scared of that homeless guy is just so funny. One would have thought that he's going to hit the man but instead he hugs him.

*The scene where Aamir proposes to Preity in front of 300 people. It's just breathtaking!

*The scene where the 3 friends unite.
*The death scene of Dimple Kapadia.

It is a movie which is a must watch for everyone. It is a movie one would wish that never ended because once you zap out of the movie into reality, you seem to feel "Oh so this is my life! Where's the 'dil chahta hai' in it?"

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Date: 31/07/2001
Title: Unaccompanied thoughts.....

In a group there are many people. They may look the same but not necessarily think the same. A group cannot function successfully if the members are all thinking in different paths. A group has to unite their thinking process at some point or else everyone lose their focus and there lies a gap in what is being done and what should be done. Then the whole association becomes a coop up rather than a unified game of basketball.
Ever noticed the game? Each player while playing basketball thinks the same, are all aiming at victory with the same dedication, and they all share a common focus- Unite to reach the common goal of victory! That's why teams win, which is their asset. Life is similar to this game. Unless and until we brainstorm our thoughts to reach a common viewpoint, there is no life in any sort of groupings. So even if you know that there are many people in the group, suddenly you realize that you are actually very lonely. This in true terms is the definition of loneliness.

At some point we all get tired of bending our thoughts in order to satisfy a unified approach. Believe me that's the most lonely you can get ever in your life, when you are actually carrying a candle of thought that no one will ever light or celebrate. What's the use of having many hands to hold to when they are scared of allowing you to seize new opportunities? Someone has to understand here but the question is why is this job done recurrently by only one person? Why is that in a group, one person permanently ends up being led rather than lead? A thought that walks unaccompanied, scrutinized at each point of time, can never really take off in life!

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Date: 28/07/2001
Title: An ideal conversation

We all like to share our thoughts with someone at some point of time. However, it is not so easy to speak out your mind or open up your heart to anyone. We tend to have a set of friends with whom we share the same wavelength. But even then there is this space in your heart that always remains vacant. It's like you can't share it with anyone. You want to bring this deeply hidden thought out but it's so hard because you are scared of wording it.

But don't you wish you could have the most filling and fulfilling conversations?- A conversation which could actually exhilarate and uplift you from no matter where you are. Sometimes just talking doesn't help but talking the right stuff with the right person with the right response does wonders. You don't have to keep track of time or think about the full stops. You can be silly enough and be heard no matter what you say. Sometimes just the genuine response like "I know" or a very caring solace can give you the reinforcement you much needed. Sometimes the most apt, compassionate and genuine words can heal your heart like nothing can. I don't know what it is about words, but they certainly have a affect on us. Sometimes the nerves in your mind are all tangled and at that time you need someone who can simplify everything for you, not necessarily practically but mentally. These right words can add the optimism lacking in your life. Words cannot change anything but they can certainly light up the vacant space in your heart.

A conversation that can go on without the 'ifs' or the 'buts' is like a treat for the heart. Such a conversation is like Mr. right, so hard to uncover, especially in the world where we live today. It starts with a "hi" and ends with a "bye". In any case releasing the heart is not easy, more so when the person on the other side is a critic judging you like a movie and can't wait to declare the verdict.

Words of the heart

My heart wants to invite you for a talk
If you wish you could join this long walk


Pick up the phone and call me
Don't think about what it's going to be

No need to plan the words
Let the heart play its own cords

I would rest every emotion on your ears
Albeit I start to bore you, I hope to find you near

Cuddle me with a warm touch of understanding
Let's merge our minds and solve questions unending

Hold my words before they die
Give them a new life to fly

Let my words fly freely in your heart
Let me reach a new start

I need an unbounded mind to store my heart's content
To exchange life should be your only intent

Enlighten me with a clear air of solutions
Hit my heart with the arrow of apt fortification

Let us exchange our vacant spaces
By the time we finish smiles will greet our faces

-Jagruti
(Strictly Copyright © feelingtolive.com)

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Date: 24/05/2001
Title: What next?

This is the 'in' question these days. My neighbors, my classmates, my friends, acquaintances and any stranger I meet on the street have just one question for me-"What next?" More than 20 million times I have been asked this question and each time I remain speechless and keep jumbling words but then why is every second, third person inclined on asking me this question? Any graduate straight out of college is faced with this question. What do people expect to hear in return? Is life so easy that the answer will be ready in a jiffy and even if I do respond with something impressive, do you think it will happen the way I want it to? I have been coaxed with this question continuously and it just screws my mind further each time. Don't you think it's the question boggling in my mind every single day? So I don't think people have to rub it in. I know at most times it's just a natural question with no harm in it. But it pumps up your brain cells quite high.

Yes, we are talking about the new millennium here where technology is invented every minute and talent is born ever hour. Therefore, to keep up with the fast pace, you have to keep moving ahead and keep updating your position and achievements. If you slow down or take a break, you are going to be left far behind and left out from the circle of the known. Keep going ahead in life and grow with every step is the bottom line in this era. I've been thinking what should the ideal answer be to "what next?" But would you first let me figure out the answer? For your kind information I still don't know what to do, where to turn and what decisions to make. Even if I have it all figured out, do you think it's that easy to pursue your goals? Life isn't a piece of cake and not all of us are born with a silver spoon. There are lots of barriers in life and before you reach these goals, you have to fight these very barriers with each step. What do you except me to tell you? I did some thinking. For the ascription-oriented, it should be " I am going to get married to this filthy rich guy, produce a dozen kids, cook and take care of the house." So how does that sound? Do I see your eye balls popping out? For the achievement-oriented it should be " I would marry a hot shot billionaire, tell him to sit at home and take care of the kids while I handle all the business!" So how does that sound? Some of us have life figured for the others and assume them in stereotypical roles. Does life work out the way you want it to? Ever heard of the thing called 'destiny'? Destiny controls your every move. Yes, I do make my plans but I cannot foresee that they will work out, can I?

We all have ambitions. Some believe in making them obvious and some let the actions speak for themselves. Anything but "what next". "What's up" would do just fine.

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Date: 08/02/2001
Title: Memories and moments makes the feeling to live

Things happen suddenly and out of the blue, but they hardly have any substance in them.

You could win a trip to Disneyland or Paris, but whether this surprising gift is a sparkling bliss or a never ending movie is never certain.

You can close your eyes and let the soothing music and its sensitive lyrics drive you to the moments that once happened.
You can recollect every single smile, look, phrase or message.
But as soon as you open your eyes, the present is alarmingly there to wake you.
It tells you that you can hold on to the moments and move forward carrying the light of future.
For how long you will hold on to these moments, depends on their significance.
Maybe you may just blow them off from your hands like a butterfly,
Or you can lock them inside your memory box and treasure it forever.

We live in these memories and moments throughout our lives.
Maybe because that's what keeps us going, it makes us feel that we'll have more of these as we move on.
After all, it's these memories and moments which make 'you'!
If it weren't for these memories and moments, where would you be?
Tomorrow maybe you'll be gone, but these memories and moments will keep you alive in the hearts of those who matter.
So cheers to these memories, these moments!
And cheers to life-for life is nothing but memories, moments, dreams, desires, hopes and a collection of your different selves.

We may be pleasant, we maybe miserable.
Maybe see the tomorrow, maybe not.
I don't know where life's leading, but I follow the path loaded with these memories and moments and the will to light every candle around.
These memories and moments will always be alive.
That means "I" will always be alive.
We all are somewhere, some how...

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Date: 29/12/2000
Title: The way you look at me!

Have you ever noticed how the other person looks at you, how they perceive you? It's a very interesting observation. Not all people in the world look at you in a good light. If you think I am charming, the person behind you may think I am boring. There are so many people in this world, but each eye's perception is different. Not only that, but your interaction with them differs too. Your family looks at you differently. Your friends have their own perceptions and so do your professors and colleagues. Each and every person that you talk to feels differently about you and you end up portraying a different 'you' with each one of them. We all make friends no matter which street we pass. One of them may think you are shy. Others may think you are complex. Some may think you are short-tempered. It's so easy to become friends with some people while you spend extra effort with others.

It's amazing how your personality differs from person to person. So where does that leave you? If someone asked me, I may define myself in a certain way but then it's not necessary that everyone would accept it. Does that mean they don't know me? Maybe not the way I know myself! Some people can read your thoughts so well, that the it is in your mind and the words are on their lips. And some people think that they know you but they are actually on a different hemisphere. It takes time to actually get to know a person, to develop a perception of them. But we being impatient humans, do not waste time in creating a image. Therefore it's no surprise that we do not end up being friends with certain people because we so stubbornly cling to our one-sided vision. In fact, we even try to challenge the other person's confidence claiming that we know them better. But the truth is, it's just in our minds. No one ever thinks that what the other person brings out in you or how you make the other person feel. Some people may bring out the worst in you and some may enhance your personality. But then who's judged here? Not the person who may force you to that direction, but you! The fact is that not everyone is so simple to be with or to even perceive.

Don't judge people on the basis of situations or temporary behaviors. There's so much more in a person. But it's you who must be patient enough to find out. Sometimes it may surprise you how differently a person perceives you compared to what you actually are. It's even more amazing how your way of relating to people vary. So you may be a free flowing talker with someone, but with someone else you think a lot before speaking out! So the question is who's the real you? The next time you lay eyes on anyone, please broaden your vision because there's much more than what meets the eye!
("Dikhau pe na jau,apni akal lagao"- advice from Sprite)

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Date: 18/11/2000
Title: The art of good conversation

Good conversations could be classified into a particular slot or something that you acquire within a period of time.

A good conversation is termed good if the listener thinks so. If you want to have a good conversation with someone then think and talk, listen and use your brains. All these precautions become most important when you are talking with the opposite sex. Anything between her and him depends on the words coming out from your mouth. Before talking to anyone or adapting a certain style of conversation, first analyze what the other person's style is and which one is more appropriate. The way you converse with people reflects your culture, education, values, personality, sense of humour, manners and how much good you are at understanding people and getting through them. One thing that each must maintain while talking is respect for each other. If you do not project respect for others, then how can the other person respect you? If you are talking to a lady then do treat her like one. There's no need to be a prince charming but then she does expect you to be a gentleman. Each man is different and so is a woman. Therefore, analyze where the difference lies. Some people take time to open up while others want to maintain only a certain level of freedom. What may seem all right for you may offend me. We all have been through school and learnt Physics, Biology and Chemistry but there is no reason to highlight it while talking to the other sex.

When two men are talking they can speak all the rubbish they want but when a man and a woman converse with each other, they talk nothing but sense. You have to be able to read people's minds and project yourself accordingly. One wrong word from your mouth may so easily spoil your impression in the other person's mind. You may have meant to say something else, but you ended up saying something that shut the other person off. When conversing with a lady let her know that you are more interested in what's inside her heart rather then what's underneath her dress. There are two ways to a simple greeting. One- "Hey there miss sunshine". Second-" What's up moody babe?". Tell me which one would you actually answer with a smile. It depends all on what suits you. If you are a tomboy, you may prefer the second one but if you are a lady with manners the first one would attract you. Also, your mood may control your choice too.

Always have a flexible style of conversation and use it globally. Talk right, talk smart! It takes one bad word to send the person away but it takes hundred good words to regain the person's attention- "What you say is what you will be in the other person's mind!"

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Date: 31/10/2000
Title: A million meetings in a lifetime

This world is a big fun fair. We meet hundreds of people every year. How many of them do really leave an impact on our minds? How many do we meet again? How many end up being close to us?

Take not of the first time you meet a person. Don't you think the first meeting always is a pleasure? My question is that is the first impression the lasting impact or the last impression the final decider. No matter what you chose, the charm (if there) of the first meeting has cannot be repeated again unless it's a very formal meeting which can be boring. Just think when you meet the person for the first time, you have very little time to think about what the person actually is. The first thing that you would be interested in exchanging is a small and sweet introduction. From then on, it depends on the person.

When you meet the person for the first time, you may notice the color of the dress or the bracelet on the hand or how he's eating his food. You keep the conversation pretty light and to the point. Here, anything can impress you- the smile, the sense of humour or the personality. Eye contact in the first meeting differs from person to person. At the end of the first meeting you may either wish not to see the person again or you may leave with a curiosity and interest to explore the person further! This is when the drama starts! But in 90 percent of cases the conversation always ends up with "It was nice meeting you". I don't know whether people really mean this but I guess the first meeting somehow does overwhelm you. However, this may not be the case always. Now, when you meet the person again or interact with them repeatedly, that's when you start the procedure of getting to know the person and your compatibility levels start dropping or rising. Now is when you actually listen to each word the person says, you start getting puzzled and start judging.

Never judge a person so soon. A person is a human being not a book that you can judge by reading the first few pages. Anyway, but we still start passing our comments on the person and try to classify their personality. An argument may occur in the middle which may be again topped by a very pleasant exchange of thoughts. From here on you either remain as acquaintances or become friends or maybe never turn back again.

It's so easy to talk to a person you don't know and is new. But when you get to know the person the mystery that binds you together ends and all the weaknesses start showing.

So, the question remains how do we judge people? Just interact and leave everything to experience? Or let other people influence our judgement? People around you are another factor that may block you from using your judgement the way you would want to. "He's this, He's that". Never mind, but would you let me find that out? First meeting can be pleasant, funny, boring or exciting. But from there on where it goes, you find out for yourself!

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Date: 7/9/2000
Title: Moods-what,when,how,why?

Talking of moods, have you ever thought about how moody we all really are? I mean no matter what, no matter where somehow our moods just take us into its grip. We all have go through mood swings. Sometimes even a small unpleasant thing can so easily irritate you, right? And when we are in a bad mood we don't realize that people around us are the ones who become victims of our annoying moods. Just think the day your mood is bad, how many people do you even talk to properly? You may just answer them with a rather angry or irritated tone or even ignore them. At times we even get into a fight or end up hurting someone. At that time none of us think that what's the fault of that innocent person that you are treating them that way.But it's natural, somehow or the other, either one of us end up being someone's punching bag or else punching someone's feelings. That shows how much our moods rule over us.

Some people are extremely moody while some are good at controlling their moods. Is moods what a person is composed of? Actually anything that happens in life directly effects our moods,whether it's related to business, personal life, school, college or professional life. Let me cite some examples. Just imagine, you lose a basketball match and when you return home, your mum says "Dear, you are home! So should I fix something for you to eat?" You say "No need, I am not hungry and if I want to eat anything I'll eat myself. I don't need your help, just leave me alone, will you?". Another example- a wife just has a bad meeting with the boss. When she comes home the husband asks, "Hi honey! My friends are coming over for dinner, so what shall you make for us?" She says, "Go get a pizza from Pizza hut! I am too tired and I don't have time to entertain your friends everyday and while you get a pizza for your friends, get one for me too. Bye!". In the same situation, if the wife was in a good mood, she would say " Whatever you say honey! Your wish is my command". Even if you are sick you wouldn't like anyone to be around you, you would rather be quite and in your own lone world. You see how your moods affect your life!

When you are in a good mood, have you noticed even a scolding or a spanking seems like a praise. Nothing will bother you that day. But the moment your moods are at its lowest, you will wine at even a small fall or change. The people who accept us for our moods and are willing to share our moods, bear them and even resolve them are the ones who really are ours. Everything depends on the way you perceive things and how you are feeling at that point of time. So tell me, what's your mood today? What's the weather like today? If you say it's sunny I'll say you are in a good mood, but if you say it's a gloomy day, then I better not be the one around you ;)

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